Many emotions come with an unexpected pregnancy. I came from a family with three children, so I suppose in my mind I would stop having children after three.

I found out I was pregnant with my fourth, the first week being back from my third maternity leave. So yeah, surprised would be a word…more like shocked.

Many thoughts flooded my mind and for someone who wanted to plan everything to a tee, this had me spinning.

I remember having to tell my supervisors about the pregnancy; wondering how they would feel. I felt like a teenager telling her parents, I knew I’ve put my career on hiatus with every maternity leave I took.

I’m fortunate enough to work at a place that support family and life balance, with the best management team. They took the news with joy.

Having that kind of support is an example of awesome leadership. It makes you want to dedicate more of what you have and work for leaders you consider as friends.

As the idea of becoming parents to four children sunk in, my husband and I had many conversations. Communicating our feelings, fears and worries has always been key to our marriage. Family is important to us and we knew we’ll need to have each other’s back daily. I knew there’s so much I needed to learn. It goes to show that you can plan all you want but God has a bigger vision…a more beautiful one if we choose to see it.

You might be wondering why I would be so concerned to have another child when I already had three. I suppose in my mind I felt that I had put so many things on hold taking care of little ones. Sacrifice is part of being a parent and I had thoughts of going back to work and proving that I can do more. It’s all part of mom guilt and my own expectations of myself. 

Little did I know that I had it backwards. It would be in the full year I was taking care of my fourth child, that I would learn what “more’ meant for me.

I became an entrepreneur being home with Grant. The gift of this mindset, lined up things that I’ve been hoping for in my life. It let me envision a bigger picture, to have the audacity to dream and continue showing up like a pro in all that I do.

I realize now that I had a limiting belief before when it came to having children. The truth is, I was transformed with every child. My heart as a mother didn’t get split up; I grew a new one with each. I became more confident and empowered, as long as I give myself the chance and I trust in God’s grace and love.

In another post I’ve spoken about how I’ve overcome my self-doubt. I’ve discovered, that as we’d like our children to excel and be the best, we need to expect the same for ourselves. We need to fulfill our own God-given purpose and ask for His blessing for each plan we set.

I’d like to highlight some things I’ve learned from this surprise.

• You can only plan so much in life. The unexpected will happen.

• God’s vision for us is beautiful. His plan is bigger

• Be grateful and humble. Everyday is a gift.

• We are more capable than we know

• Love will give you courage over any fear you might have.

And as Tony Robbin and Rachel Hollis have said “Life is Not happening “To you” …it’s happening “For You”!

Don’t miss the lessons that each day has to offer.

What advice can you impart for anyone going through the unexpected? Comment below.

PS.

My husband once said that Grant reminds him of me… The statement makes me smile because I admire my little boy so much. I love how he explores, how he loves passionately, how he speaks his heart and will find a way to get things done! Do you think he got my entrepreneurial gene?! 🙂

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